How To Build Self-Confidence

By Bessie D. Burton


Self-confidence is a very important thing a public speaker should gain yet many struggle to obtain it. If one does not have enough confidence in him self and takes on the stage to speak in front of many people, tendencies are he might not have the strength to even start his speech, or mess it all up on the way and be embarrassed vowing not to speak in public ever again. It is a good thing self-confidence can be learned and built on by anybody, especially by those who really have the sincere desire to come out from their shell and shine. It's just that attaining self-confidence does not have a short cut. It is a matter of long preparation, practice, and good mind setting.

Have a vision.If you don't know where you're going, any road will get you there. You should have a clear vision of your goal. What does self-confidence mean to you? Who do you want to become? When will you know that you are self-confident? Write down all qualities that you need to develop in yourself to become a truly confident person.It's also a great idea to imagine your ideal lifestyle in every detail - where you live, with whom, what you do on a daily basis etc. Having a clear vision of your future life will make you more self-confident and more focused on your goals.

Join a gym and start working out, start jogging, take up a new sport (extreme sports, martial arts etc.). Join some interesting classes (dance, cooking etc.), join Toastmasters, start learning a new language, acquire some new skills. Start traveling more (traveling alone will extremely improve your self-confidence).The richer your life is, the more confident you feel. The more you experience, the bigger your comfort zone is. And that means that you're getting more confident with every new experience. Take action - the world is waiting for you!

All of these tips should prove very useful on your path toward self-confidence. However, remember that self-confidence isn't only about not worrying what other people think or having a vision - it's mainly about constantly expanding your comfort zone and improving yourself. Keep that in mind while building your self-confidence.Building a better self-confidence is an ever ongoing task. Even if you have a low self-confidence today there are ways you can improve it. One way to improve your self-confidence is to start with the inside of you. Here you are going to learn a few self-confidence tips to make this possible.

Got the picture? Interestingly I read through those affirmations of mine and I realise two things - firstly; they are all second nature to me now which is great, but the biggest thing I notice is how my life has taken some new directions based on them.For example, as I began to develop my self-confidence and believe my own affirmations I met Sophie, a fantastic and wonderful woman who I fell in love with. I have no doubt that our relationship would not have been so successful had I not turned my self esteem around with affirmations.

Affirmations work so why not give it a go? Maybe you'll meet someone special too.Zac Sky is a 27 year old entrepreneur, consultant, writer, motivator, data geek, and sports-lover, with a mindset for being positive, loving life, and experimenting.By age 25, Zac had gained two university degrees, drafted his first self-help book, and founded Sixteen Threads, an Australian software development company, which delivers custom mobile applications.First and foremost, resolve to spend the time it will take to learn how to build self confidence. Over time and with patience you will reap enormous benefits.

Know that true beauty comes from the inside. You might say this is a cliche but in that case it is a true cliche. When you are pleased with yourself on the inside it will show on the outside. You can have all the qualities for outer beauty, but if you dont feel beautiful on the inside it will affect your outer look negatively. Most people are spending a fortune and a lot of time (=life) to fix their outer look, when what really makes one successful is the inner look. When your inside is beautiful your outer presence will shine.

When we lack self confidence, we tend to talk badly about ourselves or put ourselves down. Not necessarily to those around us, though sometimes we do. What I'm talking about is when you are all alone and you say things to yourself like, you'll never get that job, there are so many others more qualified than you, or who would ever date me, I'm a fat mess.

Create something in stillness. When you spend time alone and in stillness you feed your creative vein. Why do you think many poets, artists, authors, musicians spend time alone? Because the loneliness gives them the chance to create from the inside. Why do you think people are destroying the world today? Because they are in such a hurry all the time so they dont see the beauty of the world. When you calm down and walk slowly all the beauty of the world will reveal itself to you.

Say I love you. These three words are universal and very powerful. When you feel love for someone or something you feel good, and when you express the words with emotions to anybody your self confidence will multiply. You can say I love you to another human, but you can also say it to life or to a flower, a tree or an animal. We all have our own beloved ones. When you express your love you make someone happy, and make their self-confidence grow and when you get another humans self-confidence to grow your own self-confidence will grow. Dont forget the most important person to express your love to, yourself. Because if you dont have love for yourself you will certainly not have any love to give to others.




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