How To Build Self Esteem and Confidence

By Darwin van Panhuis


Low self esteem is often caused by the lack of confidence or value of one's self. You see, loving yourself is the only best way of building self esteem and confidence. You might think that this is a conceited type of love and care. But, actually, it is not. It only suggests that you need to accept everything about yourself, whether it is good or bad. But in so doing, you should never bring yourself down.Positive self-esteem can provide lots of helpful benefits to every aspect of a person's life, particularly on his family, career, relationships, social life, and inner health or morale. There are some people who highly value their career but not their social affairs. And there are people who feel most secure and confident when they are around self-assured people. This is in view of the fact that they are usually obvious and their actions are consistent.

Here are few tips to improve self esteem.Stay positive and upbeat: Thinking you are not capable, or you are not worthy are signs of having low self esteem. Have a positive outlook and believe yourself.Cherish your every achievement and reward yourself for them.Much like how you shouldn't brag about yourself, you shouldn't decline appreciation and honor. You are honored and appreciated, because you are worth it! Accept it gracefully.

Never think about your problems and brood over your past. Move on and have a positive outlook, so you can change your future.Understand your powers and limitations. It is good to be positive, but you should know where you stand in life. Never be over ambitious or think about things that aren't viable and be depressed over it. Use your powers and win over your limitations.Challenge yourself every now and then. Change is one thing that's constant and when you adapt yourself to different situations, you can become a better person. This way, you can also know your hidden potentials.Don't compare yourself with anyone, who above or below you! You are what you are! There's no photocopy of you. Remember, you are unique and special. By comparing, you can undermine yourself. You might not be the best rapper, but you will probably be good at something else. So don't compare yourself with others.

Stay motivated at all times. Reading inspirational thoughts, affirmations, quotes on self esteem and everything related, can keep you upbeat and motivated.Socialize and never restrict yourself to a cage! You need to mingle with others, get out of your room or home and talk to people you know and know those you don't! Socializing, is one way to improve your self esteem.Set realistic goals and strive to achieve them. By setting goals and working towards achieving them, you improve your self esteem.

Dress better.Boosting your self esteem has to start on the inside, but there's no reason why you can't start to feel good by wearing nice clothes and making yourself look good. Take pride in your appearance and let others see how good you look. You're worth it!Speak your mind.If you have an opinion, voice it. Who cares what other people think? You're quite happy to listen to other people most of time so why not speak up yourself? There is absolutely nothing to stop you from divulging what's on your mind.Build confidence.Practice being assertive. Write down a list of positive affirmations which will increase your confidence. Say them out loud every morning and at night before you sleep. Remove the word can't from your vocabulary. Listen to motivating music and re-programme your mind to accept a higher level of confidence as the new norm.Take action.Build your self esteem by doing as many things as you can. Just go for it. Don't even think about the end result. People with low self esteem usually think long and hard before doing something and usually talk themselves out of it. If you don't try it, you'll never know. The more you do things, the better you will feel.Self esteem is a powerful trait that can make you or break you. It's a trait YOU control. Make a choice. Refuse to accept anything less than greatness for yourself. Become stronger, think of yourself as a proud, affirmative, confident person with unlimited potential to achieve whatever you set your mind to.A lack of self-esteem can damage any relationship. In marriage especially it can cause a lot of problems. A spouse suffering from low self-esteem can contribute to infidelity, child or spousal abuse, divorce or financial trouble. If your spouse has low self-esteem and you don't think it matters, you might find out the hard way that it really does make a lot of difference.

This kind of problem can erode the foundations of your relationship until there is not much left. This might take years to happen and then the spouse will just blow up. Obviously this can have catastrophic results on the relationship.You cannot force any to have more self-esteem because it has to come from within themselves. Saying that, it is possible to encourage them to work on self-esteem issues, even though you should not expect overnight results.Here are some tips for building self-esteem in your loved one:Offer them unconditional love. Whatever they do or don't do, show your love for them. If their behavior is upsetting you, discuss this with them but do it together. Everyone makes mistakes. If they make a mistake, show that you still love them regardless.

Your Husband's Affair Was Not Your Fault And The Mistress Or Other Woman Doesn't Have Anything That You Don't Have: Although I'm sure at one point you may hear your husband say that the affair happened because he felt there was something in the marriage he wasn't getting, the truth is there are millions of men who have frustrations and who don't cheat on their wives. Husbands who cheat, for whatever reason, have had poor impulse control and decision making and the blame for this is entirely on their own shoulders. With that said, it may help to know that well over 75% of husband's who cheat say that they did so for emotional and not physical reasons. It's so common to believe that an affair is all about sex, but most times it really isn't. It's about the husband feeling bad about himself and his own self worth and trying to recapture something he feels has been lost outside of his marriage. And, you should know that only 12% of men who have cheated felt the other woman was prettier than their wives. Almost 80% of men who cheat are "extremely sorry" that the affair happened.

You have to lay down very clear goals for yourself. This is something that you should do on an everyday basis because it will certainly assist you deal with different people in a much simpler way. It is vital for you to understand that if you have great relations with others, then attaining your goals will be much simpler. You need to be more outgoing in your mission. This suggests that you must be the one to take the initiative. Many individuals react positively to those who take proactive functions in life.Value each and every individual that you satisfy. If you do this, then many individuals will feel great being around you and they will certainly additionally often tend to reciprocate the treatment.

While this behavior is completely understandable, it does nothing for your self esteem or your self worth. Although you may not feel like it, it's so important to take care of yourself and do what makes you happy. Now is the perfect time to do all of those things you've been putting off or to stop neglecting yourself, your own needs, and those things that make you happy. Take up old hobbies. See friends. Get that facial or highlights you've been wanting. Do whatever it takes to put a smile on your face. Not only will you feel better, but this will demonstrate to yourself and your husband that you are a vital, worthwhile woman who loves herself enough to get moving. As Hard As It May Be, Focus On Intimacy And Trust When You Are Ready: Always remember that you are the same person that your husband once feel deeply and head over heals in love with. Yes, the circumstances may have changed and there's no denying he made an unfortunate choice, but once upon a time when your husband had no reason to lie or fake it, you made his heart soar.

Understand that you are a very desirable woman no matter what has happened in recent days. Whether you still want your husband or you end up with someone else, one day you will have to restore trust and intimacy with a man again. The affair may make this difficult, but here is the catch 22. In order to feel truly intimate with a man, you must trust him. You can't do this if deep down you have doubts about his true feelings and loyalty. The best way to banish these doubts is to, when you are ready, dive in first with one toe and eventually with your whole open heart.Yes, this will make you feel vulnerable at first, but here's the truth. Your self esteem will be restored when you experience deep and lasting intimacy that can not be faked or manufactured. It helped me to educate myself on intimacy and sexuality. I learned several things that I wasn't doing in my marriage that ignited serious and very genuine sparks and fireworks when I did. I no longer worry that my husband will cheat again. He's very happy at home. It may be a while before you are ready for this, but be patient. You will know it when you feel it and when you do, I doubt very much you'll be thinking about your self esteem at that time.




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